August 19, 2022

Matthew 5: 39 (NIV)

“But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.”

Even after generations of people had spit in his face, he still loved them.*

In middle school, one of my sons had a problem with an older boy who waited around for him after school one day. I don’t remember the details of the story but at one point the other boy walloped my son in the back with a bike helmet. Rather than retaliate and escalate, my son walked away - and the situation was diffused. I was very proud of him but I also told him that I never expected him to let someone beat him up if walking away didn’t work. Was I wrong? 

I think we misunderstand what Jesus meant about turning the other cheek. Here are some points to consider before assuming your position on the matter: 

1. We only have two cheeks. If someone strikes the right one and you turn the left one, then you’re out of cheeks to turn. 

2. In the culture of Jesus’ time and place, a slap on the cheek was more insult than physical attack. Turning the other cheek was a symbolic gesture rather than an invitation to be hit again. 

3. We know that Jesus never promoted retaliation – quite the opposite. But for an example of how Jesus responded to being struck in the face, read John 18: 22 and 23. No, he didn’t hit the guy back, but he did speak up for himself. 

4. Jesus was a victim of violence because he chose to allow it for the sake of others. 

5. Jesus advocated obedience to civil laws. If you have been assaulted, you have legal recourse. Revenge is not a legal option. 

What Jesus says goes. But sometimes he is making a point, not establishing step-by-step procedures. Turning the other cheek is about attitude more than it is about insult or attack. Christians should be known for their meekness, their kindness, their willingness to forgive, not for their thirst for revenge.

Jesus died, not as a victim, but as a victor.*